Of Passing Away and Death

Back in January, Amber attended a wake for the very first time. Her childminder's brother passed away suddenly. Amber had fond memories of him and hubs and I thought she should attend the funeral.

We knew it's not going to be an easy night. She'll ask lots of questions, neverending whys..

I explained to her gently, her friend, Wan Teng's father had passed away.
She asked why and the conversation went like that. ..

why pass away ? he sick ah ? die already ah ?

Yes, he passed away already. Oi oi already. Cannot wake up. Very sad.

Ahhh.. I know i know ! (earnestly).. there.. you send him to the hospital ah.. they put the oxygen thing.. then cannot die lor.

No, too late already. he has passed away.
why never send him to the hospital to put the mask ? (oxygen mask)
 Too late Amber. sometimes it's too late to send someone to a hospital.

Then ah.. pray to guanyin ma lar.. she will help him.

No, not that he didn't pray or guanyin didn't help but if a person is too sick, he will pass away.

take medicine la.. cannot help ah ?

cannot..  (at this point,, I kinda regretted telling her.. her 'CPU' was processing everything I say but a 4 year old cannot comprehend death)
so how, he oi oi cannot paii ah ? (paii is wake up in our hinghwa lingo)
yes, he will not wake up anymore, we'll bring you to see him and please don't ask anymore ok ?

During the wake, hubs asked Amber if she wanted to see Uncle Ah Keong for the last time. She wanted and so hubs carried her up. The little fart was not affected at all, probably still didn't quite understand death means eternity. Eternal loss.

All went well, sent our condolences and went home. I told her Uncle Ah Keong will be buried. Buried as in dig a hole and the box .. aka 'coffin' will be placed inside.

Days later.. she asked me..

Mama, Wan Teng's papa (Ah Keong) become skeleton already or not ?

Mama, Wan Tent's papa become like the Michael Jackson song Treeler already or not ??

*SLAP HEAD*
she thought all buried humans will turn into zombies !

Such is the innocent (or not innocent) 4 year old !

Amber Yaks and Loud too !

She talks non-stop and sometimes the things she says are so beyond us.. leaving both of us dumbfounded.

I must note down her yakety yaks yaks, bla blas and chitter chatters before I forget. Her conversations are just getting more and more matured and most times, driving me and hubs up the wall !

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I have a friend popping by yday and her kid pooh pooh-ed on the floor. Amber wasn't home and I told hubs about it later in a car ride. Amber heard and said :

Mama, what ? What did you say ? What nnggghh--ngghhh ?
Nope, nothing !
Yes, you say who ?
No, Mama said, the boy nnggh.. nghhhh.. and I quickly changed the topic before she starts asking about who came to our house and why she isn't home, etc.. etc... etc...
It's ok you know, it's ok for little children to nnghhhh--ngghhhh.. Amber was also like that. Last time you nngghh--ngghhh and it dropped all over the floor during a wedding dinner and Mama had to wipe it away.
Next time, you have a daughther.. ngghh.. ngghh.. you have to wipe and wash too.
I don't want..
Eh ?? Then who's going to clean your baby ?
My husband lah....

oooh-ooohh smart girl.

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Sometimes she makes us sooo mad and being rude to us, I scold her..

Next time Papa Mama die already,you have to take care of yourself. You cannot talk to Mama anymore, you cannot scold Mama anymore
then.. hubs add .. If Papa Mama die already, HOW ? Nobody look after you, HOW ?
Amber : Then you find me a good husband laa.

hubs and I went 0000 - 00000.. lost for words !
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Again, another incident, she makes me mad, I can't remember for what but I do remember scolding :

Next time you will have a daughter just EXAXCTLY LIKE YOU !
NO AH ! My daughter not like that. My daughther like Princess and Cinderella wan ah..
Oh no ! you will not ! you will have daughters just like you, always kek sei their Papa and Mama
NO ! NO ! NO! My daughter like Barbie Doll, Princess and Cinderella, they are NOT LIKE ME !!
and we go on fighting, me and her.. I was enjoying this fight already.. then I asked
So, you don't want your daughter to be like you ?
No !
So, you admit you are naughty ?
Yes !

lol ! wooo hoooo.. I win this argument !

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Everyday, we'll be having fights, she with me and hubs. My little Amber, only 4 years old and so argumentive. We're meeting the teachers tomorrow and I'm sure her teacher will have plenty to say about her .

Selfish and Stupid

No one in particular.

But incidences with Amber I'd like to note down.

Selfish
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Fetching her from childminders, I was driving along a narrow lane, an inconsiderate car was parked very comfortably along the road, not being mindful of parking closer to the sides so other cars could pass.

This car, very selfish, park like that so hard to cross. Very INCONSIDERATE.

Mama, what is 'inconsiderate' (talking slow and pouring the word out slowly).
Selfish lor !
Why selfish ?
Coz he never think of other people when he park. You see, what if our car falls into the drain when we try to pass.
Huh ? Why he must sell fish wan ??
Uh-oh.. we are talking of 2 different things here.
No. no. not sell fish. He's selfish. Selfish .. hear me.. one is SELL FISH (speaking in a slower tone and emphasising the 'L') , the other is SELFISH.
SELFISH means not thinking of others. Like when Boon kor kor serves you fruit and your friends are all asleep, you eat all the fruits without keeping for them. You are not thinking of them right ?
yes
That's selfish.
But the man who sells fish at the market, 'he sells fish at the market'
2 different meaning, selfish and sell fish.
So, selfish is In-kon-see-der-rate ah ?
Yes, inconsiderate.
But if he park near to the side, afterwards his car fall to the drain HOW ? He is SELFISH ah ?
No, no, Mama don't want him to park so close to the side but just a little bit closer so we can pass.

Stupid
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We've taught her stupid is a not a nice word to say, in fact a very very bad word and I think we've overdone it a little.

Mama, today Aunty Choo and Uncle Choo call me stupid
What ?? why did they call you that ?
Because I never listen
Do they call other people stupid ?
Yes, they call Yen Yen stupid also

I flare and overreacted.. you cannot call people 'stupid'. It takes a stupid person to call another person stupid (I know I overreacted on this one, then hubs stepped in and explained why stupid is not a nice 'name' to call someone)

So, Aunty Choo and Uncle Choo very bad ah ?
No, I don't think they mean to call you stupid.
Yes, they say me stupid. They very bad hor ?
Yes.
Mama, I want you to call police to catch them. They are bad people, they call me stupid.
uh-oh.. I don't know the actual truth but I trust the childminders parents in caring for my kid in their best ability.
Well, they might not mean to call you stupid.
Yes ah, they did. I want you to call the police OK ? (now, she likes to end her setences with an authoritative 'OK')
ok ok .. now go to bed.

Next morning : Mama, remember to call police, Aunty Choo and Uncle Choo call me stupid.

arrghh.. what should I do ? to query the childminder would seem so trivial.

Chitter Chatter - Update

Been a long time since I last updated on Amber's conversation.

She's a joy to talk to, *when I have the time*. Very often, I try to cut her conversations short or in other words *shut her up* when I need to get things done.

I know, I am guilty and I'm sure many moms out there face the same issue. . having kids who can't stop talking !!

I'd better note down her conversations before I forget. English, as spoken by Amber, my 4 year old :

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Mama, you better don't eat so much. Afterwards ah.. you become very fat already.

If you fat, you cannot walk, your leg pain ..

When you are fat ah... your legs will become short.

**shame** - my own daugther asking me to diet ? I don't know where she got the idea of fat woman has short legs but I do know after putting on so many kilos the last 10 years, I do look a lot shorter than before.

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one day, I was folding 'kam ngan' for Ching Ming prayers for my mom. She asked me what they were for.

It's for Amah.. Mama's mummy.

Questions marks starts running in her little head.

Your Mama ah ? Yee Ma ?? (Yee Ma is my father's current wife)

No, Amah. Mama's mother passed away and I'm folding these to pray for her.

You have 2 Mama ah ?? Not wanting to explain further and can't wait to shut her up, I said 'Yes'.

How come you have 2 Mama, I don't have ?

???????? You want 2 Mama meh ? You don't want me already ?

Errr. no no no no no ! I want only Mama !

I quickly distract her and changetopic before she ask me why I have 2 Mama .

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While I was baking cupcakes for her one day.

Mama ! One day ah.. can you teach me how to make cake ?

Sure..

So ah, next time I can make cake for my daugther to eat .

I teach you everything I know ok ? And then you cook for MamaPapa to eat , can or not ?

Caannnn...
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and so many more chitter chatter that left hubs and me in stitches. I really must note it down more frequently now before I forget.

Ching Ming for kids - Afraid of Dying ?

I need to spill this out before I forget what she said. This is too funny.. and touching too.

Hubs went back to Malacca for his Ching Ming prayers 2 wks ago. It's was the peak of praying time, lots of cars at the Jelutong cemetary. Some roads were blocked to facilitate traffic. Hubs will recognize his granparents grave from a particular angle of road (to the left of this, and to the right of that, etc) but one road blocked and everyone was in a daze. By then they got on foot to locate his grandpa's grave. Strangely or coincidentally while scouting for grandpa's grave, they stumbled upon one with a photo that resembles his greatgrandmother. Look closer, it's the long lost grave of greatgrandma and greatgrandpa !!! It must be their lucky day !!

So, cut long story short, hubs took some pics of the grave, came back and shared with the rest of the family...

.. and Amber

Amber has not seen graveyards before and hubs explained to her.. this is papa's Tua Ma and Tua Kong's grave.

why ???

and so he explains.. people grow old, die.. they are buried.. and remembered..

she was quiet for a while and not until a day later. . during bedtime, she started crying in bed..

I don't want PapaMama grow old
I don't want PapaMama die
I scared...

oh.. dear... poor her.. I really felt for her as we always asked ourselves what'll happen to her should hubs and me leave one day..

I explained.. people grow old, Amber will grow old. too

I don't want .. to grow old.. becoz PapaMama die already
I scared alone.. I scared in this big house.. I don't know how to take care..

ok.... I assured her.. PapaMama will grow old with you ok ??

No.. I don't want.... I scared grow old die already. have to go the hole.. so dark. i scared alone.. so dark...

shit.. I really don't know what to say this time.... then...
Ok.. ok.. don't worry, we won't die.. we will be with you.. next time you get married, have children. Mama will take care of your children ok ?

Mama.. I scared.. and I very sad.. if you and papa die, I will be alone..wuahhh.. haa..

Ok.. ok.. don't worry, I will always be with you.. grow old together... go to sleep ok ? and I hugged her to sleep.

Smack the hubs for showing her those pics. I've already warned him and the few days later.. he showed her again, hoping to explain to her..

and the drama.. continues again..

Do you explain to your kids about life and death ?

Of Tigers and Lies and The Boy Who Cried Wolf

Her imagination runs wild. She likes to 'tell stories' nowadays.

The past 2 weeks, I heard the most atrocious stories from her.

1. She told sis who was staying with us. Her kakak (ex maid from Cambodia) bring friends home. The friend, a guy, has a gun. The friend, pointed gun at Amber many times.

2. At the childminder, during meals, she is sometimes fed worms. "Aunty Choo put a lot of worms on my plate! A lot ! A lot !" (with hands showing expression of 'a lot'). I cannot finish but she still put worms on my plate

When confronted, she breaks out laughing.. Ahahahaha I tell you story la.. I want you to laugh !

My daughter, the best story teller.. or lack of a better word, the Biggest Liar.

Many times, her stories are out of the world... brought back from the moon and stars !!!!!

Last night, I took time to explain to her after this incident at the toilet where I asked her to spray herself clean after her pee.

Boon Kor Kor don't wash for me after wearing diapers. He don't let me wash.

Why ? You have to wash yourself after your nap and if you wet your diapers. Otherwise you'll be itchy down there.

No, he don't let me wash wor.. he wants me to be itchy !

I don't believe her, not even 1%. This time, I gotta put a stop to my creative little Enid-Blyton-in-the-making... .and look at her in the eye :

Amber, tomorrow I will ask Boon Kor Kor ok ??

Then she breaks out laughing ...

Ahhahahahaha Amber tell story la..

I want to tell you a story.. then I thought of the Boy Who Cried Wolf.. then I thought.. ok.. she may not understand sheperd, sheeps and wolf.. so I concocted my localised story :

There was a little girl , she shout TIGER !!! TIGER !!!!
... then all the uncle and aunties came to her rescue, but no tiger.
... then she laughed.. ahahahaha.. I want to make all of you laugh .. I play only.. I tell story only
( I talk in the same slang n lingo as Amber)

ONE DAY... a real tiger came out from hiding...
... the little girl shout TIGER !!! TIGER !!!
... the uncles and aunties heard and said to themselves... Ahahaha... the little girl.. playing again. no need to help her.. she is just playing la..
... BUT ... the tiger bit the girl, bite off her hands, legs and head.. the head fell to the floor and the girl died... sooo sad (must dramatize a bit for better effect)

she looked at me innocently.. dumbfounded.

So, can you tell lie ? Or make stories which are not true ? Mama scared one day if a tiger come after you, nobody will believe you and help you. How ?

nooo... I scared, I don't want...

Can you tell lie ?

noo..

You can tell Mama story but you must say "I tell you a story first".. don't create story unnecessary ok ?

ooo... ok...
then ...
the tiger in the zoo.. got cage ah ?

YES !
noo.. i also don't want to go to zoo, I scared tiger bite.

**sigh** ... and that same night, she cried in her sleep, nightmare.. probably so traumatized with my story of the little girl who got bitten by the tiger ..

I wonder if all kids create make believe stories ? Mine's sound more like a lie than a story !

Who Do You Think You Are ?

Over the weekend, we had friends over and Amber and the kids turned the house upside down. We cleared the mess at night, while she was sleeping. Hubs was in charge of clearing the toys while me, the rest (from this to that.. everything). Hubs fumed, picking up her toys was worst than assembling a 5000 piece jigsaw puzzle.

Then the little fart, awoke crying, asking for us to sleep with her. Hubs sent her to bed to sleep on her own, the she comes out crying again.. in , out of the room, up and down the stairs, doing the Indian drama dance.

Then she said she wanted to nggg-nggg (poo). Hubs said to wait until he get his hands clean. She shouted again for hubs (crying as well).  Hubs got annoyed and shouted back..

Wait la ! Who Do You Think You Are ? Cannot wait ah ??

she cried, feebly :

I am Amber lah .. wuaahhh... wuahhhh...

**lol**  I couldn't help laughing.
Next time, anyone asks you that, sarcastically, you know what to say ya ??

Concept of Babies

Amber's been longing for another sibling. She always tells me : I want Mama to have 2 babies (with her finger showing me '2' or peace sign)

I always tell her, it's up to god, Mama cannot choose to have 1 or 2 or 3 babies. Want doesn't mean we'll get.

Most of our common friends all have 1 daughter (single child parents) so Amber don't question much. When she saw Annie's twins, she was curious about twins' and asked why some mothers can have 2 kids.

My sister in law is pregnant and in her second trimester now. Yesterday, while have a family dinner together, I took the opportunity to tell Amber the good news.

Look, (SIL) Sum Sum's tummy has a little baby inside.. it's 'growing' , later it'll be born out as a baby, just like you when you were a baby. So you be careful, don't bump or bang into Sum Sum, you must sayang the baby inside ok ?

She stood there, staring at Sum Sum's tummy for a moment, perplexed. Then she talked aloud in a 'lau-kai' tone :

I also want you to have 2 baby. I want Mama to have 2 baby !!!

**loud.. real loud** I quickly hushed her out and keep quiet.

Poor girl, she thinks babies are made on demand.

There was another instance while having a shower with her.. mother and daughter chat..

Mama, why other people can have 2 baby, you cannot ?

I can't coz I don't have. Not everyone will have 2 babies you know. It's up to God .

You can ah ! You marry again lor !

*gulp* where did she get THAT idea ?

Marry who ?

Marry Papa lor..
Papa marry Mama, PapaMama have Amber.
So, you marry Papa again, you can have another baby la !

LOL !! Should I praise her ingenuity ?

Of Tiger Balms & Buttock !

I keep a jar of Tiger Balm in my car. Amber was toying it with, to my annoyance. Opening, closing the jar.

I screamed her to stop. I warned her if she ever gets tiger balm on her hands and touch her eyes, it'll burn 'lat lat' and I can't help her.

Why this is Tiger balm ?

Because Tiger Balm is 'lat lat'

Why Tiger Balm 'lat lat' ? Chuoh Moi ? (chuoh moi means 'why' in Hinghua dialect)

Because it's hot. Close it and put it back.

err.. Why is Tiger buttock 'lat lat' ?

LOL !!! When I said tiger 'balm', she thought it was tiger 'bum'

She must be wondering why tiger's buttocks are 'hot' in nature. LOL !

Hand Me Downs

I was rearranging her wardrobe and picking out those clothes that were too short for her to be given away. I do keep some of her clothes esp her favourite ones as I intend to make a quilt of it one fine day (one really fine day... long long way to go but I'll do it)

My 'Miss Kiam Siap' was around while I was packing her clothes.

Amber, give these clothes away to Sharon mei mei ok ?

NOOO..... Cannot ! Why ? I don't want to give mei mei my clothes.

But you cannot wear them anymore.

No.. can ah.. you see.. she puts on one top to try...see, this Pooh one , I can still wear, no need to give mei mei.

Aiya, cannot lah.. can see your phat-chai (belly button).

No, don't want to give away. This one I want, this one I also want. All I want.. don't give mei mei.

Why not ? Aunty Wai Fun gives you Khloe cheh-cheh's clothes because Khloe cannot wear already. Now, you cannot wear, you give someone else ok ? Must learn to share girl.

She, still unhappy, ngam-ngam-cham-cham, pulling the clothes over her and insist she could still wear the clothes I packed aside.

Then I pulled out one purple dress which is way too short. I asked her to put on like this :



You see, the dress is so short, if you wear it , can see you 'phet-phet' , panties and all. You want to wear meh ?

Then she kept quiet, no more protest from her. LOL !!!

Aiyotatayo

Amber likes to say this phrase :

Aiyo tatayo mar remuka maikersar !

She says this when something surprises her or when she makes a mistake or when we do something silly and amuses her.

I don't know what it means and neither does she. I checked with Boon and apparently a few of the other kids at the childminder also says the same.

All started with a sentence they overheard in a cartoon in Bahasa that sounds something like . . .
Aiyo, tak tahu, makan sayur .... ... .. .. ..

Aiyotatayo .. .. ..

This tagline is so cute..

Random Conversations - Death & Love.

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Yesterday, I was alone with her at home, she was toying with my laptop and at one of those quiet and Que Sera Sera moments, thinking of her future, what she'll be, how she'll cope, I told her :

Amber, one day, Papa & Mama will leave you and not be with you anymore you know ?

Why ? Amber die ah ?

*sigh*.. CHOI ! No, one day, when Papa & Mama grow old, we will leave you one day, when you are old, you'll pass away one day.

When Papa Mama old, got white hair lor, Amber big girl already, adult. I go work work and take care of you ok ? I drive car, take Papa & Mama out.

My heart melts. Hubs told her many times about filial piety. She's our only kid and yes, we are selfish parents, we hope she'll stay with us forever even after she gets married and has a family of her own.
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Bedtime, she threw a tantrum and cried big time...

I want to go downstairs and watch tv
Wuahhh... Amber so sad. I very sad.
Because I want to go downstairs watch tv.

I showed her the clock and explained concept of time to her, past 10 o'clock, short needle past number 10, she has to be in bed.
Then in bed, she whimpers her heart out, in tears ( I found it amusing and laughed at her instead coz her cries were more like whimpers of a baby than real heartaching cry it all loud)

Mama, Amber so sad.

Why ?

Because Amber so long in Boon Kor Kor there. Amber wait for Papa Mama, so long also never come.

Eh.. Sharon mei mei's father mother, Ya Ya father mother also very late, isn't it ?

Yes.

You see, Papa Mama have to work. Once we finish work, we fetch you, okay ?

Still whimpering.

Amber so sad, Amber wait so so long also Papa Mama never come
Amber want to go office and work with Papa Mama.

LOL! Nanti.. more to come... all her so sad and so long cerita..

Amber so sad, so long never go Mid Valley. *sniffs*

Yeh Yeh & Mah Mah did not come to KL, how to go Mid Valley.

Yeh Yeh Mah Mah so long also never come to my house. Amber very sad.
Why so long also never go Mid Valley.

Yeh Yeh Mah Mah getting old you know, very tired, cannot go Mid Valley everyday.

No, not old, you see, they got 'black' hair. Where got old.
Black hair, not white hair. Yeh Yeh Mah Mah not old

Mama, Amber dun want to go Boon Kor Kor. I want to go Mid Valley see Yeh Yeh Mah Mah

Between the whimperings, she'll cuddle up to me. She did complain a lot of 'so sad' stories but I particularly remember the 'black hair', I find it very amusing.

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I think lately, we didn't have much mother-daughter moments, so last night she pour all out to me her 'so sad' and 'so long' stories.

Why? Why? Why? Tell Me Why?

Omigod. It's why, why and more why's everyday.
She asks why for everything.. Why this, Why that.. NON-STOP !!

One occasion, we caught her with an appropriate answer. We were on MRR2 and saw some fireworks from afar. Then it disappeared. Then she asked and this is how we answered. Very funny, hubs and I could hold ourselves back from laughing.

Amber : Eh.. why no more fireworks ?

Us : Because it's blocked by the trees

Amber : Why ?

Us : Because the fireworks was behind the trees

Amber : Why is it behind the trees ?

Us : Because the trees is in front

Amber : Why is the tree in front ?

Us : Because the fireworks is at the back

Amber : Why is the fireworks at the back ?

Use : Because the tree is in front

Amber : Why is the tree in front ?

Us : Because the fireworks is at the back

Amber : Why is the fireworks at the back ?

Us : Because the tree is in front

and it went on and on until she knew she's getting no where.. LOL

Fancy Wants

Lately, Amber has been asking me for fanciful things, out of the blue. influenced by her 'peers' .

Mama, I want shoes, with wheels !
She must have got this from watching those guys at Tesco's roller skating around.. LOL !

Mama, I want shoes , got lights, like Cheh-Cheh's.
Her cousin sister has a pair of Barbie shoes with blinking lights. Sorry, Mama & Papa too kiamsiap to pay >Rm60 for a pair. Luckily I found a similair al cheapo pair from Tesco's for RM19.90. You should have seen the smile on her face.. priceless.
I don't believe in branded stuff but I believe in 'bargains', luckily at age of 3, she can't tell the difference between Barbie and Barbi ... :)

Mama, I want drinking bottle, like Cheh-Cheh's, got water and toy turning turning one..
She meant a Disney water tumbler with some liquid floating toy at the bottom (very beautiful). Cost RM29.90, Hubs said forget about getting her one, if she drops it, it'll break. Instead I got her one without the liquid thingy at the bottom for Rm12.90. She ok'ed... :)

Mama, can you buy me a pair of wings ? I want to wear.. buy shiny shiny wan ok ? Like Tinkerbell ok ?
Now, I don't know where she got this from.
I actually joked with her and said Huh ? Wings ? What wings ? Chicken wings can or not ? I pretended not to know...LOL!!
The only wings I've seen are those worn by Sherilyn but she got it from HK. Her mom, Shireen, told me to check out Toys R Us, then again, if it's expensive, I shall give it a pass.

Can anybody tell me where to get 'wings' ?

Her whims and fancies.. I'll try not to give in all the time but only sometimes. We'll have to compromise. I don't want my girl to demand and have what she wants always.. Things don't come easy for us too right ?

I Don't Want To Grow

Can you believe it ? That's what she told me today.

First she tells me she doesn't want to go babysitter..

... whimpering...

Mama, I don't want to go Boon Kor Kor's

Why ? You have to go. Mama & Papa have to work. We have to earn money

I don't want to eat at Boon Kor Kor's

Why ? You have to eat to grow tall, to grow up to be a big girl.

No, I don't want to eat ! I don't want to grow.....
I don't want !!!

See ? She's very clever to shut me up. All my reasoning and threats don't work. What am I to say ? You don't eat, you'll not grow ? You'll die ?? What if she say, she wants to d** ?? Sei mou ?

Random Conversations - Of Peacock feathers.

She's at a stage where she wants to argue on anything and everything. This conversation went on in the car, just both of us, after picking her up from childminders and going down town to pick Papa.

I placed her in her car seat, asked her to take off her shoes (coz she'll dirty my car seat by kicking the back of front passenger seat)

Don't want ! Don't want !!

Arrghh.. here we go again.. I fished a dinosaur out from the back seat pocket and she smile..
So,,, to town we go.. and...

Mama, why is dinosaur sharp sharp ??

duh ? how to answer ? she was holding a dinosaur with sharp back ..

I don't know why but there are many types of dinosaurs. Some with sharp back, some with long neck, some can fly...

Just like birds, there are many kind of birds, chicken is a bird, duck is a bird, they can't fly, eagle is a bird, eagle can fly. Peacock is a bird. Peacock has beautiful feathers, It's green, blue and turquoise in color, spread it out and it's beautiful. There's a saying "As Proud As A Peacock"

I want to be like peacock

Why ?

I want to put feathers on my kor-yeah (back)

Why ?

I want to look nice nice !

LOL !! Sei for lor !! How to stick feathers on her back ?

Errr.. I can't find any peacock feathers for you. There are no peacocks around here. You can only find them at the zoo

I want to go zoo !

No, it's too late, we have to fetch papa, we can't go zoo

No ! I want to go zoo !

No ! The zoo it closed. It's late, sunset already, zoo is closed, birds sleep already !

Sensing she's not getting anywhere, she changed topic ..

I want to go Mid Valley, I want to go Tampin

Why ?

Because I so long never go ! I want to go NOW !

No .. we are fetching Papa, it's too late to go Mid Valley now

Then, we saw KLCC from the Ampang Elevated Highway.. she know's it's very near, no excuse to say it's late or far.

I want to go KLCC
I want to go KLCC to buy peacock feather and put on my kor-yeah (back)

I really wanted to laugh out loud ! which kid would want to wear peacock feathers other than my argue-till-no-end Amber ?

No, we have to fetch Papa.

Why ? Why cannot ? Why we cannot go buy peacock feather ? Why ? Why ? Why ?

Finally we reached Papa's office.

Papa, Amber want to go KLCC buy peacock feather, I want to look nice nice. I want peacock feather.

Hubs was aghast ... what's this about KLCC and peacock feather, I explained to hubs in Bahasa Malaysia that little fart was in defensive mode, anything we say 'mm ngam teang' !

Hmm.. hubs asked Amber how to get peacock feather.

Can pull from peacock mah

Peacock pain how ?

Not pain wan, no blood ! !

If Papa pull your hair, got blood or not ?

No blood mah

Pain or not ?

Pain !!!

So ? Peacock also will feel pain.

She shuddup and that's then end of the peacock feather story !

Random conversations

Just for records a conversation with Amber.

On the way to my father's for dinner, she threw a tantrum. Hubs threatened to put her down.

You 'lau kai' some more, I let you down now.
Cannot !
Where do you want to get down ? I stop you in front !
Cannot !
Ok, I stop you at the police station !
Cannot ! Cannot ! All the way......... also CANNOT !

Wah.. my 3 yr ++ very clever at arguing already. She tells us we cannot stop and put her down ALL THE WAY to my dad's house wor.. Hubs also 'tak tahan', broke down and laugh. Then the fart knows she won the game, also laughed and then.. no more tantrums.



Besides being argumentive, she's also very caring.

This morning I woke up with a sore throat. I told her so and :
Mama, I get mehleesen (medicine) for you ok ?
I go and get from the hairclip box (I keep some children paracetamols in a box with hair clips for travelling use)

Last week when I had bad abdominal cramps:
Mama, go home, I put 'hong yiu' for you ok ?
No need, doctor gave me medicine .
No lar.. put hong yiu, rub rub liddat liddat (show with her palm rubbing her tummy)
Put hong yiu already, not pain lor.

Sometimes she'll touch my dry elbows and knees
Mama, you see, your skin so dry. I put lotion for you ok ? Must put lotion everyday, massage massage liddat, then your skin no dry lor..

One of her itchy episodes asking hubs to scratch her back.
Hubs said : You itchy I scratch for you. Papa itchy who scratch ?
I scratch for you lor... (sad tone)

I constantly worry for her speech after she lost her front tooth. Sometimes she speaks with a 'lau foong' tone. For the record again, 2 words she can't pronounce correctly :
medicine MEHLEESERN
antibiotic ANTI BEE YOUR TICK

Other than that, she's okay. Now, I hope she won't be laughed upon when she goes to school next year.

I must get my camcorder sorted out asap to record her conversations asap !!!